I have a Type-A personality and as such, I am a natural planner. I like to know exactly what is going to happen, when it is going to happen and how it is going to happen at all times and my pregnancy was no different. When we decided that we were going to start trying to have a baby, I knew exactly when I wanted to have my baby and when exactly we should conceive and guess what; I got exactly what I wanted, right down to the exact due date that I wanted. I know, I know; it sounds crazy and I was very lucky that it worked out that way, but hey; maybe my planning did have something to do with it.
Despite my desire to control things, during my pregnancy, I learned that I had to relinquish some of that control, as there are just some things that are out of your hands. Although I wanted to have an ideal pregnancy (as most women do), I did experience some complications that were completely out of my control. During my first trimester, I was in and out of the hospital with difficulties that took a while to control. Once those difficulties were controlled, I again had to make trips to the hospital during my second trimester for other complications. My point in telling you all of this is that all of these complications taught me that I can’t really control everything, despite how much I may want to – which brings me to my baby shower.
Baby showers are one of the time-honored traditions during pregnancy and I knew exactly how I wanted mine to go. I knew what type of theme I wanted, what type of food I wanted served and even what type of games that I thought would be fun to play. My sister and mother, who planned my shower, told me it was going to be a surprise and that I had no say. They wanted me to relinquish control and just enjoy an event for a change. I didn’t like the idea, but I trusted my mother and sister to plan the event, and I was right to; the event was absolutely beautiful and (though I hate to admit it) even better than what I had planned for my own shower. I let go of the steering wheel and I was quite surprised by the results when I did. Between the pregnancy complications and the baby shower, I really learned to loosen the reins of life – though I do still like to be in the driver’s seat a lot.